I just try to think "screw you, you're not important to me or my life" to most people who might condemn me. You can't please everyone. Having said that, most of my LJ is friends only, and I only come out with stuff publicly for Idol. And the best thing about being honest in Idol is making friends who don't judge you for the things that others might condemn you for. You don't have to open up to everything right away, or even at all, but stay in competition long enough, you might find yourself sharing things you never expected to. I know I did last season.